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The wait to see your loved one…

Yesterday night I went to pick up one of my best buddy from new T2 airport in Mumbai. He was coming from US after a gap of almost 2 years. It was my first visit to the T2 terminal the new one which is much talked about by all Mumbaikars. Indeed entering the vicinity of the airport made me feel like I am in some other world. It is nicely made and well maintained. Feel proud of this so-called world-class-make-over of Mumbai International airport terminal. I am not writing this post to promote the new airport terminal nor am I paid for appreciating it, so I end this over here.

Back to track again. My friend’s father wanted to accompany me to pick up his son from airport. Uncle called me in the morning and said “I would like to join you to pick up my son”.
I said “No problem uncle. I will meet you in the evening.” and decided a point to meet. I have a big car and can easily manage 3 of us with luggage while returning back.
Just before leaving my home I called up uncle to say “I am leaving now. Meet you in 10 minutes at the decided place.”
Uncle immediately said “Beta (son), can you come inside the building and pick me as I am little unwell.”
“Yes no worries” was my prompt response. My friend’s building is situated little inside the main road.

Uncle got in the car and I noticed that he had his sweater put on and muffler round his neck. I again asked him “Uncle if you are unwell, you can rest at home. I can go alone and pickup my friend”.
To this he immediately replied “No, its ok, I will manage and I have promised my son that I will come personally to pick him” and I could see the glow in his eyes. I felt confidence in his voice too.

Parents always like to have their kids around them. They always feel high and confident by their presence around them. Yesterday I noticed the same in my friend’s dad. His son was coming after almost 2 years and his eagerness to see him made him forget all his worries and illness. Although technology has helped to see each other even when you are miles apart but seeing personally is way beyond description. I also was having the similar feeling. Seeing my best buddy after a long time makes me nostalgic. While at the waiting area, my mind went through the past days, me and my friend had spent together. And in-between, twice uncle said “here he comes, wait … no … he is not that one”. This is bound to happen when one is so desperately waiting for someone than that person can feel and see his/her face in all others. I also have personally felt it many times and I am sure you all also must have at some point of time.

I also went through the same feeling. Few years back I was away from my home in US for around 5 months and my returning back home ignited full energy in everyone. I clearly remember my daughter hugged me tight and was not ready to leave me at all. She was with me all through the way home till the time she went to sleep.

It does not matter how much we grow but we always remain kids for our parents. Their love and affection never reduces. Even my parents, especially my dad, till date wait for me incase myself and/or my brother are out for party and will be reaching late home. He will only have a peaceful sleep once I and/or my brother are back to home. The same goes with me too. Even though my daughter is small, but I get impatient if her school bus comes late by few minutes.

Such is the true and selfless love between parents and kids.

Kids style of being fashionable

“I will not wear this … I want to wear that only…. This is not fitting me…. It hurts me when I wear it …..” I am sure you all must have heard these lines; especially mom’s who are reading this post of mine.

Now-a-days the younger generation kids, I mean the Generation Z kids (meaning theybenefits-of-kids-choosing-clothes are born after year 2000) have developed the habit of becoming very choosy about what to wear and what not to wear. These young kids are very adamant about what they want to wear. These kids even want to shop for their own clothes incase their parents happen to buy for them something without their consent then it’s a big task for the parents to convince them to wear it. Such stubbornness from the younger generation is not only for clothes but for many more things, like shoes, accessories, school bags, infact for all that these kids use or wear.

I clearly remember my young childhood days, almost 3 decades back, where in I use to wear and use all those things which my parents gave me. I never protested for anything and I am sure you all were on the same page as me.

My niece is just 5 years old and has all the “nakharas” in terms of dressing up. She is too picky n choosy and will only wear clothes as per her choice and not what we have decided for her. Even while buying clothes we ensure that she is present and approves it or else many a times it has happened that the clothes are just lying in her cupboard and not worn once also. My niece actually knows what type of clothes to wear and on which occasion.

She will have all the reasons in the world incase she does not want to wear a particular thing. And I must say that her convincing power is so good that her mom has no choice but to agree with her. She is choosy not only for clothes, but for her water bottle, shoes, hair accessories, bags and even perfumes too.

The same goes with my 9 years daughter too. Even she is not far behind in the choosy race. Her wardrobe is full of her selected clothes. My daughter is fond of t-shirts and jeans compare to typical frocks and churidars. Not only designs or colours but the style also does matter to her. So, whenever we go shopping for my daughter we ensure that she accompanies us. Even when I do online shopping, I first show the pictures to my daughter for her approval and then I place the order 🙂

This clearly shows the power of generation Z kids and we as parents cannot impose things on them easily. Time has definitely changed from those days where we readily used to accept everything from our parents to now seeking approval from our kids. Once I had overheard a kid asking her mom that all her friend’s mom wear western clothes and why is it that you never wear it. Such is the high expectations from small kids who feel they should not be left behind.

We as parents have to realise that our kids are pretty fast learners and they have good grasping powers. I feel it is we who would need to adjust with them rather than expecting them to get adjusted with us.