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Reminiscing good old days

This is a long pending post which actually I had forgotten to publish it…….

Those were the innocent days of wearing same colour school uniform, same black shoes, covering text books with brown paper, childhood crushes, school classes, tutions & exams and all those teachers & unforgettable picnics, traveling to school & back home with friends, sharing tiffin in recess break..

And right back to the present of office meetings, dashing off to catch the 8.17am local train, grabbing a seat, making sure to reach before the cut-off time to attend day long meetings and then all of sudden a thought pops up “hey why don’t we all school friends just meet up to catch up on those old school days & have a nice get together”

Well getting to the point, we had a rocking school reunion few weeks back (this was my 5th reunion and all of these 5 reunions I have been a helping hand to organise it). And to mention that I along with 2 other school friends had done all the planning and arrangement (this was my 5th reunion . It was our joint efforts from last more than 1 month which made the event successful.

We, specially my friend PK and myself did lots of planning and brainstorming for the reunion event. Numerous phone calls every day, coffee meetings on weekends, the do’s and don’ts wherein all can enjoy and yes ofcourse the laymen thinking of budgetary issue. All 5 fingers of ours are not same, similarly mindset of 50+ people whom we expected cannot be the same. Pleasing each of them was the most tedious task.

Every alternate day there was some twist and turn in our road to the reunion. Hurdles are always welcome and they set the challenge for us. Overcoming them was the most exciting part. Frankly, initially I had thought of dropping off the idea but PK stood strong and always pulled me in for the exciting ride. Thanks PK for it.

Pulling it off from me-out-from-planning-a-reunion to a successful one was a proud moment. Getting intouch with school friends through social media spread across the globe, passing on the communication without missing anyone and most importantly not letting off the momentum which we had managed to build it from day 1 of announcing the reunion date.

Finally the d day was here and we as a facilitator were bit nervous as in hoping that all the pieces which we had planned out should fall out in the right place. The endless chit-chats, loud giggles, still the habit of pulling each other legs, clicking plenty of pictures with each other, dancing, singing, swaying and ofcourse hugging each other and not wanting the night-to-end so soon.

Frankly everything did go well as per our planning and all those who had attended the reunion had ball of a time. Meeting childhood friends took us 24 years back in our school days trying to recollect moments of our life which were full of fun and joy.

There was a lot to learn when we put together the feedback we received from our friends. And I’m sure the next time we plan a school get together it will only be more fun.

Some of the feedback we received are as follows :-

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Dormant contacts – do we need them?

“We both are friends but we will not be talking with each other” one of my colleague showed this message to me as he had got from “someone” whom I also don’t know. Now what the hell this means? I was asked by my colleague to answer this. So I read it one more time slowly interpreting it word by word. We are friends – true; but will not be talking with each other – huh? Contradicting statement, don’t you feel so? I told my colleague to reply “Ok”. So my colleague (more smarter than me) replied with 2 Oks; 1 ok for being friend and another ok for not talking :).

Later, I thought into this and I asked myself, how many contacts do I have who are friends of mine but not talking with me. So I checked my friends list on FB and my contacts in mobile. I first started browsing thru the list in mobile, all the contacts starting alphabetically from A and by the time I reached half way i.e. till alphabet H, I got tired counting the number of people who are in my contact list and are either friends, colleagues, ex-colleagues or family members whom I am not in regular in touch or rather not at all in touch with them for a long long time. I also gave a glance on the list of friends on FB and there too I found so many people whom I am not in touch with at all :(.

Social media, helps keeping in touch with many of them, but it rather seems that once you add the contact of the new person, then they are just lying inside your contact list for long long time. Actually most of us forget many of them after few days. We all have fix set of friends whom we prefer to stay in touch with each other.

So again back to my first sentence of this post. I said to myself, Hemang what if tomorrow one of my near and dear friend sends me such message. What shall I reply? I noticed that there is still lot of empty space in my mobile and in my FB account wherein people can stay in the list. I simply will not delete anyone. I already have so many dormant contacts, one more will be added to the dormant list. I am hoping some day these set of people will definitely come alive (I mean not from the grave yard but in sense of keeping in touch) and will start talking with me again. Hence as of now, I am keeping all the people-who-are-silent-in-my-life safely in my mobile as well as FB list :D.

What if someone says one such statement to you? What will be your response? How many such people do you have in your list?

Friends – lifeline of my life

Friends !!! Friends !!! Friends !!!

This is what I have and I always treasure all my friends. There is no gender discrimination in my friend list. I have male friends (which are very obvious as being a male myself) and I have almost equal number of female friends too.

I am found spending more time with my friends then my cousins or relatives. So you meanBest_friends to say am I that popular within friends? Do I really need to answer this? Friends are like soulmates to me. I eat friends, I drink friends, I sleep friends…(now please stop your corrupt thinking tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-161 ). Friends are like my family members.

From my childhood I always had many friends, thanks to those old golden days with no idiot box and smart phones in our pockets. So the only option left was to play with friends. Even the building I used to stay in had many children (boys and girls) of my age and we all used to have a gala time everyday. This old habit of staying more with friends has still not gone out of me and I still love being with my friends tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-061.

But as time passes our priorities changes so does choice of friends. Earlier when we were kids we didn’t mind making friends with anyone or everyone. Now since we have grown we think twice before making new friends. Maybe not only twice but thrice and x number of times incase the opposite person is not of the same gender. Is there any reason as why have to think so much? Maybe we feel how others will react? What will others say? What will they feel? What if this … what if that … and the questions pops on and on. Our society does not appreciate or rather accept a boy and a girl being good friends. And more of it if a married man been a good friend with a married woman or vice versa.

I really don’t understand what is wrong in having friendship? Friendship does not really mean physical. It is just that two persons of same liking and thoughts get along well with each other. Some similarity and common thoughts starts a bonding between 2 of them and then it turns into a relation called friendship. So what’s wrong in this? Why people when grow up starts taking wrong meaning of the relationship. Why our so-called “Samaj” (our system) doesn’t accept it without finding any glitches in it.

best-friends-quotesI am sure every one of us must be having one best friend who stands out of the crowd of friends list and this is the one whom we enjoy the company of being called the best friend. I too have one best friend and I do like the company of that friend. And as I said earlier I do not make friendship by looks. It is just that the instinct within me that tells yes this person is the right choice …!!! And then no looking back once both are tied with the band of friendship. Forgetting any of my friend is just out of the question.

I have many friends and for my easy-to-go-around with them I have classified them into categories. School friends, old building friends, new building friends (hardly any), college friends, my ex-office friends, friends of friends and the list goes on…. I have internally set priorities in terms of my bonding with them and I know the bunch of friends who really stands with me all the time.

I would definitely like to sing this song, for all my friends out there, one of my favorite from Bollywood movie “Sholay

“Yeh dosti hum nahin todenge
Todenge dam magar tera saath na chhodenge…”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4CSYwTE1kr0&feature=kp

So what are your views and thoughts on friendship?

Pause and decide….

Pause and decideWe, human beings, all of us have anger stored within us. The depth of the anger in us varies from people to people. Some people are very short tempered while some are cool and have high temperament but at some point of time do get irritated.

So talking about anger, why do we get angry? tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-081  It is the frustration that comes out from us. Frustration can be of anything. So how does frustration builds up in us? Many factors; unsatisfied job, not doing well in business, breakup in relation, more importantly unfulfilled expectations from your loved ones and the list can go on & on. Slowly slowly all the above factors plus many more helps building frustration within us. How much can one take all these frustration within self. It has to come out someday. And it opts out in way of anger.

Do you think taking out anger helps oneself? tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-074 Well actually a big NO. The words and actions used in anger are very harsh and it really hurts you and the opposite person at later stage. This we all realise it later on and by that time it’s too late.

Sometimes even we are the victim of someone’s anger tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-123 . Many times we get hurt by words and action of someone close to us. And we often move away in anger, not realizing that being away and alone could mean paying bigger price. Often anger leads to families split, siblings fight, break-up in friendship, business partnership and even joint ventures break. We do not realise that going away often marks the beginning of new troubles and bigger challenges. Many a times keeping quiet tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-125 also helps but the calmness often hurts either of us.

I remember reading one theory of “Pause and decide”. These 3 words if taken very seriously really help us in our life. Someone says something to us and we immediately react with words and actions tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-004 which later on make us think as why did I say or react to it. If only we had remember the above 3 words of “Pause and decide” then maybe the scenario would have been different.

So next time you are angry or hurt, take a deep breath and stay calm. Next time something goes wrong and you want to react then hold it for a moment. Let the moment pass by, let your mind settle down and let your mind become more clearer. And trust me the decision that follows is usually lot better and productive then the one you would have taken earlier.

I know you must be thinking as to why such post on a Valentine’s day. So the point is to stop anger, hatred and instead start loving all in this world. Be it family, friends, office colleagues, business associates and anyone and everyone, spread the beauty of love.

 Wishing you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day !!! tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-020

Joy of meeting school friends (Part 2)

INVITE 1

As you all must have read my earlier post, just hours before the Big Reunion day of SJS 1992 batch, (incase you missed the earlier post then here it is Part 1. ) I am pretty charged up; the excitement, the hangover, all in all the ‘masti’; and wanted to pen down my feelings as soon as the party was over, but being an organizer I reached home late, music still playing in my mind :).

As i sit down to write I am unable to describe the joy I experienced and hence maybe would not be able to duplicate the same.

In our first meeting of  “Organizers of SJS reunion” we hit upon the theme for the party “Filmfare Award Nite”. So from here we started our planning for the party. We decided to call the party nite as “Grand Masti Nite” andINVITE 3 decided to hold an award ceremony which we said “Grand Nautanki Awards”. We created an online survey and sent it across to everyone to fill it. The questions were based on the daily conversations we used to have on whatsapp. Accordingly we organized the gifts for the winners.

So with everything in place; venue, DJ, food, awards and all of us, the D day finally arrived. The excitement of meeting everyone in me was so high that yesterday I did not feel like having my lunch nor my weekend afternoon siesta, I was just counting the hours left for the party.

The organizers reached earlier to check whether everything was in place and we planned out on how & where we would be presenting the awards. I appreciate all friends arrived on time, fighting all odds of traffic jam which is always the reason of reaching late and in about an half hour we had a full house.

We started with the Welcome speech followed by the awards. All this we had wanted done within 45 mins and yes we managed to do it within time. The closing note was very short and sweet and it was time to hit the dance floor. Lights went off and the DJ got the party started. Disco lights all around us we danced with our whole heartedly to the beats of the DJ. The new dance numbers along with the remix of late 80’s made our feet move & body swing and we were all dancing with each other. Even the spouses enjoyed a lot and all of them were a great support in making this night successful!

How can I forget, the booze on the rocks which helped us keep our energy level high and danced continuously till the DJ got tired. For almost 3 hours we had some awesome remixes played and we all danced like Sashi, Rishi, Mithun, Amitabh … to Salman and Shahrukh too.

All in all I had a great reunion with old friends(some forgotten due to my dying old brain cells and some with whom I had lost touch in the last couple decades). It was real fun meeting old buddies from School and that too after so many years. I am sure this reunion memory will always stay in my mind and I will cherish it forever.

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Joy of meeting school friends (Part 1)

Yes you read it right. The kind of happiness we get in meeting school friends and that too after 21 long years cannot be described. 

It all started almost a month back when one of our school friend created a SJS 1992 group on whatsapp and he added as many as 20-25 people on the go. Although I was in touch with many from the group, I made few new friends. It all started here. Chatting up with all of them and everyone eager to know more about each other, we all had lots of questions for each other. It took us some time to settle down with. Then we hit upon idea of meeting each other and that meant planning a reunion. 

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Although myself and another friend had organized reunions in 2010 and 2011 but we were not able to reach more of our school mates then (as there was no whatsapp).  We did meet a few old friends and had a fun evening. 

The date for this upcoming event was finally agreed upon and decided for 28th September. Along with this the admin of the group started getting more and more requests for adding new batch mates in this group (invited via friends only). Our group started increasing and all of sudden we realized that we had exhausted the quota of the whatsapp group capacity. More friends meant more fun and believe it or not we exchanged over five hundred messages a day. Such high was the activity of all school friends that many of the mobiles started hanging as they could not take the load of messages. Even whatsapp team must be wondering what are SJSites upto …..

And now we had the enormous task of organizing this event and finding volunteers. I and a friend had organized it the last couple times, luckily we found four volunteers from the group who were ready for this. We six collaborated with each other and after the first meeting we called ourselves as “Organizers of SJS reunion”. And then started meetings, pe meetings… How, where, what were the questions that we had to sort it. Thanks to one school friend we got a theme and then we started working on it. Although we knew it was not an easy task to organize such a large event, that too with full time jobs; but we all were very excited and have put in our best effort. The venue which belongs to one our friend, has been gracious to offer it to us for this grand event. And now today at this moment as I am writing this post we are less then 18 hours away from the D day. 

There is so much excitement among all of us that continuously my mobile is beeping with messages and if I don’t look at my cell for 5 mins, I have got 50 odd messages. After every hour the group status is changing to how many hours remaining …..

I would continue on this post after our meet to update with pictures. If you cannot come, you will be missed!

I cannot wait for the party to start!

Click here for Part 2