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Train Rage…

Today morning, I witnessed one more fight in the Mumbai locals. Unlike the last adventure this time it was not for a seat. I know those travelling in trains in Mumbai must be thinking that it is very common and happens every day. So are we really commuting to reach our destination or travelling to fight and remove frustration or anger on someone?

Today’s incidence took an ugly turn when a person tried boarding the train and he mistakenly pushed another person who was standing near the gate. Although the first guy said sorry but the verbal abuse started tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-084. In no time the train compartment turned into a WWF ring. The passengers sitting were the boundary of the ring although no ropes but with so many referees trying their best to take control on the situation in the compartment turned ring tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-021. Yes literally fist fight started between both of them and they were falling from side of passengers to other side of passengers who were trying to save themselves from getting hurt. All this lasted for few minutes and there was lot of chaos in the compartment.

Interesting to note that all this happened in first class compartment between 2 gentlemen who were neatly dressed up and were possessing high-tech gadgets with them. After all these years of train traveling in second and first class I have concluded that if you have a travel pass of 1st class compartment means you own the railways. No doubts there are more cultured gentlemen and more decency in 1st class but people cannot bear discomfort. The amount of people traveling and that too in peak hours can lead to little pushing or discomfort. We all have to realise that life is full of adjustment and try to adjust so that yourself as well as others are happy too. There is no point losing your temper and getting into fights with anyone. We all want to reach to our destination on time. Stay calm and be happy.

Pause and decide….

Pause and decideWe, human beings, all of us have anger stored within us. The depth of the anger in us varies from people to people. Some people are very short tempered while some are cool and have high temperament but at some point of time do get irritated.

So talking about anger, why do we get angry? tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-081  It is the frustration that comes out from us. Frustration can be of anything. So how does frustration builds up in us? Many factors; unsatisfied job, not doing well in business, breakup in relation, more importantly unfulfilled expectations from your loved ones and the list can go on & on. Slowly slowly all the above factors plus many more helps building frustration within us. How much can one take all these frustration within self. It has to come out someday. And it opts out in way of anger.

Do you think taking out anger helps oneself? tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-074 Well actually a big NO. The words and actions used in anger are very harsh and it really hurts you and the opposite person at later stage. This we all realise it later on and by that time it’s too late.

Sometimes even we are the victim of someone’s anger tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-123 . Many times we get hurt by words and action of someone close to us. And we often move away in anger, not realizing that being away and alone could mean paying bigger price. Often anger leads to families split, siblings fight, break-up in friendship, business partnership and even joint ventures break. We do not realise that going away often marks the beginning of new troubles and bigger challenges. Many a times keeping quiet tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-125 also helps but the calmness often hurts either of us.

I remember reading one theory of “Pause and decide”. These 3 words if taken very seriously really help us in our life. Someone says something to us and we immediately react with words and actions tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-004 which later on make us think as why did I say or react to it. If only we had remember the above 3 words of “Pause and decide” then maybe the scenario would have been different.

So next time you are angry or hurt, take a deep breath and stay calm. Next time something goes wrong and you want to react then hold it for a moment. Let the moment pass by, let your mind settle down and let your mind become more clearer. And trust me the decision that follows is usually lot better and productive then the one you would have taken earlier.

I know you must be thinking as to why such post on a Valentine’s day. So the point is to stop anger, hatred and instead start loving all in this world. Be it family, friends, office colleagues, business associates and anyone and everyone, spread the beauty of love.

 Wishing you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day !!! tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-020