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It’s all about choosing the right person

Be it a friend, life partner, colleague, associate or even your boss (well if you have a choice to do so 🙂 ), you have to be careful whom you are choosing and for what purpose in your life.

One can find many besties in life but it’s important who stays with you till the end. At some point of time I am sure everyone must have come across a situation or situations wherein you have been betrayed by the person whom you trusted the most. It was this person for whom you can swear to be the most faithful person in your life. This was the person whom you had placed all your trust in him/her whom you thought is the best of the best in your life.

And all of a sudden, one day you come to know that this most trustworthy person has stopped responding to you with some reason known only to him/her. This is the person who now starts talking ill about you to others. And you get into depression mode, the worst phase in life. You now only see the past and reminisce about what all you did for that person. You start blaming yourself for the terrible mistake you did of trusting that person, to open up yourself and most importantly keeping faith on him/her. And you make a wow to yourself that you will never again get close to anyone.

In simple words one cannot buy an “insurance” for any relationship. There are no safety nets in it. Only precautionary steps which one can take.

The core point in any relationship is a 2 way handshake. If you are simply chasing the other person and that other person does not have time for you then you need to put an end to this relationship. If you think you are being “used” by that person then it’s time for you to give some space to this relationship till that person gets the message. If you really do matter or if your relationship does make a difference to the opposite person then he/she will notice the distance from your side and will try to reconnect. However, if that does not happen it’s a clear message that maybe the relationship and closeness was not what you thought or expected it to be.

Cutting-off from that person may be easier said than done, however in the long run it will be all for the best and you will soon be a free bird with many more cheerful people around you which will bring a smile back on your face. I personally feel it’s better to be alone than to have such people in life and most importantly start loving your own company.

 

PS. It was after a long discussion I had with one of my office colleague which made me pen down the above post.

 

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Dormant contacts – do we need them?

“We both are friends but we will not be talking with each other” one of my colleague showed this message to me as he had got from “someone” whom I also don’t know. Now what the hell this means? I was asked by my colleague to answer this. So I read it one more time slowly interpreting it word by word. We are friends – true; but will not be talking with each other – huh? Contradicting statement, don’t you feel so? I told my colleague to reply “Ok”. So my colleague (more smarter than me) replied with 2 Oks; 1 ok for being friend and another ok for not talking :).

Later, I thought into this and I asked myself, how many contacts do I have who are friends of mine but not talking with me. So I checked my friends list on FB and my contacts in mobile. I first started browsing thru the list in mobile, all the contacts starting alphabetically from A and by the time I reached half way i.e. till alphabet H, I got tired counting the number of people who are in my contact list and are either friends, colleagues, ex-colleagues or family members whom I am not in regular in touch or rather not at all in touch with them for a long long time. I also gave a glance on the list of friends on FB and there too I found so many people whom I am not in touch with at all :(.

Social media, helps keeping in touch with many of them, but it rather seems that once you add the contact of the new person, then they are just lying inside your contact list for long long time. Actually most of us forget many of them after few days. We all have fix set of friends whom we prefer to stay in touch with each other.

So again back to my first sentence of this post. I said to myself, Hemang what if tomorrow one of my near and dear friend sends me such message. What shall I reply? I noticed that there is still lot of empty space in my mobile and in my FB account wherein people can stay in the list. I simply will not delete anyone. I already have so many dormant contacts, one more will be added to the dormant list. I am hoping some day these set of people will definitely come alive (I mean not from the grave yard but in sense of keeping in touch) and will start talking with me again. Hence as of now, I am keeping all the people-who-are-silent-in-my-life safely in my mobile as well as FB list :D.

What if someone says one such statement to you? What will be your response? How many such people do you have in your list?

Friends – lifeline of my life

Friends !!! Friends !!! Friends !!!

This is what I have and I always treasure all my friends. There is no gender discrimination in my friend list. I have male friends (which are very obvious as being a male myself) and I have almost equal number of female friends too.

I am found spending more time with my friends then my cousins or relatives. So you meanBest_friends to say am I that popular within friends? Do I really need to answer this? Friends are like soulmates to me. I eat friends, I drink friends, I sleep friends…(now please stop your corrupt thinking tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-161 ). Friends are like my family members.

From my childhood I always had many friends, thanks to those old golden days with no idiot box and smart phones in our pockets. So the only option left was to play with friends. Even the building I used to stay in had many children (boys and girls) of my age and we all used to have a gala time everyday. This old habit of staying more with friends has still not gone out of me and I still love being with my friends tiny-smileys-yesemoticons-061.

But as time passes our priorities changes so does choice of friends. Earlier when we were kids we didn’t mind making friends with anyone or everyone. Now since we have grown we think twice before making new friends. Maybe not only twice but thrice and x number of times incase the opposite person is not of the same gender. Is there any reason as why have to think so much? Maybe we feel how others will react? What will others say? What will they feel? What if this … what if that … and the questions pops on and on. Our society does not appreciate or rather accept a boy and a girl being good friends. And more of it if a married man been a good friend with a married woman or vice versa.

I really don’t understand what is wrong in having friendship? Friendship does not really mean physical. It is just that two persons of same liking and thoughts get along well with each other. Some similarity and common thoughts starts a bonding between 2 of them and then it turns into a relation called friendship. So what’s wrong in this? Why people when grow up starts taking wrong meaning of the relationship. Why our so-called “Samaj” (our system) doesn’t accept it without finding any glitches in it.

best-friends-quotesI am sure every one of us must be having one best friend who stands out of the crowd of friends list and this is the one whom we enjoy the company of being called the best friend. I too have one best friend and I do like the company of that friend. And as I said earlier I do not make friendship by looks. It is just that the instinct within me that tells yes this person is the right choice …!!! And then no looking back once both are tied with the band of friendship. Forgetting any of my friend is just out of the question.

I have many friends and for my easy-to-go-around with them I have classified them into categories. School friends, old building friends, new building friends (hardly any), college friends, my ex-office friends, friends of friends and the list goes on…. I have internally set priorities in terms of my bonding with them and I know the bunch of friends who really stands with me all the time.

I would definitely like to sing this song, for all my friends out there, one of my favorite from Bollywood movie “Sholay

“Yeh dosti hum nahin todenge
Todenge dam magar tera saath na chhodenge…”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4CSYwTE1kr0&feature=kp

So what are your views and thoughts on friendship?