Have you by any chance till now got into a situation where in you are being ignored or you are sending messages (be it mails, texts, bbm, whatsapp) and there is no response from the opposite person. I am sure you must have checked your phone thousand times just to see if there is a reply of your messages. The opposite person can be anyone (maybe ex gf/bf or spouse or boss or one of your best buddies). You keep on sending messages day after day and there is no response from him/her (henceforth I will be referring this person as X person). So how does one feel it? And especially when you are in good communication till last week and all of sudden there is total silence between both. It seems that the X person has disappeared from your life.
So what will you be doing now? OR rather what can you do?
Here are few of the things one could and should do:-
- Go offline
Block the X person on facebook, linkedin, whatsapp or any sort of social media. The more you look at the profile of the X person the more you will be tempted to talk with him/her. It will be a painful treatment for you incase you see the X person online and not responding to you.
- Show your patience
The best way to exhibit your patience is by engaging yourself in something you like the most, any activity or hobby or engage yourself deep into your work. Don’t give yourself any breathing space to think about the X person. At least till the time you hear from him/her.
- Leave the X person alone
You cannot force anyone to respond to your message. It’s upto him/her, whether that X person wants to reply or still ignore you the way its going on.
- Spend your time with buddies
Try to spend as much time as possible with other friends. Talk about everything and anything but except this topic. This will help to relive some sort of stress from you. Go out, dance, eat, drink, have fun with friends.
- Adopt the policy of ttyl or just a smiley
If at all any time (maybe after one day, 3 days, a week, a month) of the day or night the X person calls you then be cool and say you will get back to him/her later as you are very much busy. Incase he/she send any text messages, then just respond by saying ttyl or simply send one smiley.
Believe me, as I write this I do know it’s easier said then done. The type of feeling one goes through is very tough to mention. Add to this the X person will sometimes respond in monosyllables, adding more fumes inside you. So many thoughts erupt in our mind as to why and for what reason you are being ignored? Is it something you have said or done wrong for which you are getting punished? All such thoughts lead to sleepless nights and affect your daily routine life.
If the above points are followed (which I know is very difficult and the last one is the toughest) not needed to be in the same order as said, then chances are you would never be ignored by that X person in future and if at all you still are then time to get some change in your life.
PS. The book “The One You Cannot Have” by Preeti Shenoy inspired me to write it.