We, human beings, all of us have anger stored within us. The depth of the anger in us varies from people to people. Some people are very short tempered while some are cool and have high temperament but at some point of time do get irritated.
So talking about anger, why do we get angry? It is the frustration that comes out from us. Frustration can be of anything. So how does frustration builds up in us? Many factors; unsatisfied job, not doing well in business, breakup in relation, more importantly unfulfilled expectations from your loved ones and the list can go on & on. Slowly slowly all the above factors plus many more helps building frustration within us. How much can one take all these frustration within self. It has to come out someday. And it opts out in way of anger.
Do you think taking out anger helps oneself? Well actually a big NO. The words and actions used in anger are very harsh and it really hurts you and the opposite person at later stage. This we all realise it later on and by that time it’s too late.
Sometimes even we are the victim of someone’s anger . Many times we get hurt by words and action of someone close to us. And we often move away in anger, not realizing that being away and alone could mean paying bigger price. Often anger leads to families split, siblings fight, break-up in friendship, business partnership and even joint ventures break. We do not realise that going away often marks the beginning of new troubles and bigger challenges. Many a times keeping quiet also helps but the calmness often hurts either of us.
I remember reading one theory of “Pause and decide”. These 3 words if taken very seriously really help us in our life. Someone says something to us and we immediately react with words and actions which later on make us think as why did I say or react to it. If only we had remember the above 3 words of “Pause and decide” then maybe the scenario would have been different.
So next time you are angry or hurt, take a deep breath and stay calm. Next time something goes wrong and you want to react then hold it for a moment. Let the moment pass by, let your mind settle down and let your mind become more clearer. And trust me the decision that follows is usually lot better and productive then the one you would have taken earlier.
I know you must be thinking as to why such post on a Valentine’s day. So the point is to stop anger, hatred and instead start loving all in this world. Be it family, friends, office colleagues, business associates and anyone and everyone, spread the beauty of love.
Wishing you all a very Happy Valentine’s Day !!!